Should I start using condoms?
- Thread starter Rikx
- Start date
you should start licking your cum off her tits and her pussy if you are still fucking her.
I definitely recommend you using condoms with your wife. I have been on condom only sex with my wife since Noember 2012 and it is FANTASTIC!! Especially when she lets her Lover go without them and is full of their sperm while yours is not allowed in or on her at all. CW
I voted no. I believe that once these restrictions start coming into play they continue to be added on until she really has no responsibility or concern for your sex life. The whole notion of you having to give up something because she has a better, bigger, longer lasting, more fulfilling lover seems ridiculous. Simply because she's found her path to sexual liberation doesn't mean that yours should diminish. You've ALREADY given up a lot! She's gained everything and now you are offering to give up what little you have left. Ultimately, your resentment will grow when you feel that you are insignificant sexually to her.
Now if you don't care about your sex life then forget all the above. If you're happy just knowing she's happy then you're on the right track. Just tell her upfront that you no longer see her as your sex partner and ask her if it's ok if you can jack-off quietly to some internet porn.
I personally have a difficult time believing that before being in "the lifestyle" wives can be so caring and loving and devoted and then suddenly lose those qualities. It paints an ugly stereotype that seems like it would be difficult for a wife to do unless she had no respect for her husband at all. Why be with someone you don't respect? I would think that (and obviously I'm WAY off here) that most women would be grateful that a husband could be so generous and patient to allow them an experience few get to do with support from a loving husband.
Now if you don't care about your sex life then forget all the above. If you're happy just knowing she's happy then you're on the right track. Just tell her upfront that you no longer see her as your sex partner and ask her if it's ok if you can jack-off quietly to some internet porn.
I personally have a difficult time believing that before being in "the lifestyle" wives can be so caring and loving and devoted and then suddenly lose those qualities. It paints an ugly stereotype that seems like it would be difficult for a wife to do unless she had no respect for her husband at all. Why be with someone you don't respect? I would think that (and obviously I'm WAY off here) that most women would be grateful that a husband could be so generous and patient to allow them an experience few get to do with support from a loving husband.
This is the essence of the cuckold lifestyle. The guy gives up a lot of freedom while she gains all. It's clearly a departure from the traditional vanilla 50/50 relationship and may transition to a 40/60 , 30/70 or more. But both partners are usually or should be happy about the arrangement.
I don't disagree with you. However as to the "essence of the cuckold lifestyle", I've observed that the only one true shared trait is that a wife has sex with a man other than her husband. After that it breaks into millions of iterations, with millions of different roles and power structures. Your own situation is distinctly different. There are many other cuckolds that don't enjoy or do some of the things that you do. Ultimately, if both partners aren't happy then it is a failure. Why do anything you don't enjoy? I do agree that the essence you mention is the most general public perception of what we've seen and read in erotica. I have a feeling that the power exchange is a lot more dynamic then people let on.
So true. As I have said in the past the cuckold lifestyle is really only one aspect of a much larger potential arena. There are the FLM marriages for instance which are associated closely to the cuckolding lifestyle. Some FLM's practice cuckolding some do not. Some cuckolding lifestyles contain elements of an FLM and some present only in their simplest form. Still there are the strict DOM/SUB FLM and Cuck relationships all rolled up into one. A type of marriage that I am in. It's all on a spectrum. How we get there is anyone's guess but you are right about the need for those involved to be happy.
We have
I was thinking a few weeks or a couple of months at the time at most. 12 years is quite something. How often do you still get to have her with a condom? Have you never broken the streak?
Pampix
Male
I think that the matter about condoms you are questioning yourself about is much broader then the use of condoms. I also did get quite upset and mentally disturbed in having to use condoms, then not because I got a vasectomy and then again to have use condoms although I was snipped.
The broader picture is that she prefers to have sex with her boyfriend then with you. Most women will refuse them to their husband in a progresssive way starting with less sex with all kind of diferent reasons beginning with themselves being tired, period, headache etc.. Becaus these reasons do not work all the time they will start to focus on other reasons not to have sex, matters around birthcontrol, premature ejaculation, not being good enough with your cock and enhancing it that again you were not good enough. This wil also give her the perfect reason to have a lover and lessen her feeling of guilt towards you because you are not good enough.
My journey was over a period of 5 years:
When she had her first lover:
- less sex
- then the less sex was less and less PIV sex
- she gave me handjobs ad even bought me a fleshlight..
When she was done with her first lover everything was as almost as before for some time but:
- because we were having not so much sex she wanted me to use condoms to stop birthcontrol for her health
- she then sugested me to get a vasectomy and that in that way we could have sex again without condoms, so I got snipped
She then had her second lover and:
- after some weeks she was seeing him, and I did not know it, she then wanted me to use condoms again when PIV because she thougt it was cleaner
(but in fact she was disgusted to have my semen in her) and she used birthcontrol without me knowing because she though wanted his semen in her..
- in the mean time she focused on the PE and ED that I got from all that fuss with her boyfriend, condoms etc...
So in the end I became quite incompetent in bed and our cuckold dynamic grew more and more and not to get fucked up in he head you try to
accept it and start looking how to find a balance in the dynamic to live togeteher with a wife that denies you and has a lover on the side. Chastity
and a chastity device is quite a good sollution because it makes you own state clear.
And this is quite possibele if you have enough compensation in this dynamic: cuddling, alternative ways of sex, and you wife/girlfriend becomes you best friend bacause the comepting sexcomonent is not there anymore.
A lot of woman like two types of men: one for the adventure and sex and another one she can rely on, be safe, that cares for her, looks aftre the children etc..
The cuckold dynamic is possible but not easy to get it balanced..
The reason for you using condoms is so she can still satisfy your meager needs, and feel "faithful" to her Lover. If only his sperm is in or on her, then even though she may allow you condom covered entrance, there is no exchange of fluids, no real skin to skin contact, and she's unlikely to orgasm also. But she will fullfill your needs also while remaining faithful to her Lover. That is how we see it anyway. J (the wife)
Or perhaps a hand job using a glove which would be even more non personal.
Reminds me of a girlfriend who would use only two fingers when giving me a handjob, obviously in an attempt to avoid direct contact with my sperm.
Yes, all that, and another reason that I see is that I want her to be clean and tight for him. As much as I love to reclaim her myself I would never send her off to see him with my sperm still inside her. That feels so inappropriate. So we usually don't have sex the day before she is likely to see him. But to refrain from reclaiming her afterwards is still a big challenge for me, with or without a condom.
Has anyone copulated with a condom on while she has another man's load inside her? Doesn't it make the condom slip off easily?
I always use a glove and oil when I jerk off. Makes for smoother stroking and feels a little different than skin. A little like getting a hand job from someone else.
Hubby has frequently, but he says that full slippery feeling and the HEAT in my pussy after being with my Lover pushes him over the edge immediately, he never lasts long enough to worry about the condom slipping off. LOL A full minute would be an ETERNITY!! Usually, he starts cumming when his head slips inside and he feels that heat thru the condom. J (the wife)
Well, not the best sex partner anymore. As a man, that hasn't changed. He used to be able to play sexually for hours before I got involved outside our marriage, but ever since I started having affairs, his ability to restrain himself from cumming has definitely gone downhill. And I don't do much to help in that manner either........I know his triggers and I pull them ALL the time!!
Actually, right now that I am not involved outside the marriage (post pandemic, everything has changed), I would kinda' prefer he not have such a hair trigger sometimes, but its hard to reverse over a decade of training in that manner.
J (the wife)
Related Threads
