Insecurity is hard for someone on the outside to understand. We see ourselves in such a harsh critical light. My wife won’t wear skirts because she thinks her ankles look too thick. The people that do look perfect spend a lot of time, energy and money to look that way. It’s impossible to hold yourself to the standards you see from the affluent or the famous.
I think one of the coolest things about many hot wife stories is the confidence that they gain. It seems transformative. The imperfections aren’t as crippling as they once were. Beautiful women are difficult to approach. Confident, interesting, assertive women are difficult to NOT be drawn to!