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My wife and I play little cuckold games, usually in the comfort of our own bedroom, but there is one scenario where she allows it to be played outside the house. She enjoys going to the local indian casino by herself to play slots. I tease her that it would be the perfect place to find a guy that she could have no-strings sex with and come home to me with a story or two. This has worked out great for us because she's allowed this to get to the point where I get to suggest outfits for her to wear and help her to look sexy before she leaves. I've even ramped it up to where she's been given the green light by me and I've given her magnum condoms, sticking them in her bra and sending her out the door along with the suggestion that if she wanted to go bareback, that would be OK with me too. She really seems to enjoy this flirty, sexy talk.
She always comes home to find me being a horny, nervous wreck and we have a great time reconnecting.
We've gotten a lot of mileage out of this scenario but she's never met a guy there (that she's told me about) and with the lockdown thing, the casino does it's best to keep their customers separate, with little opportunity to mingle. No table games and no cocktail lounge. So I have little trouble believing her.
So I've been a bit naughty about this and have tried to get some Bulls to arrange to meet her there unbeknownst to her. I've been very honest with them and told them that she has cold feet and they would probably get nowhere with her right away, but that I would be happy with anything that transpired . I've let them know that I've given her the green light and that she was free to do anything she wanted to, but that no means no and they must respect HER boundaries. I've let them know that if they could at least get her number, they might get in on the ground floor of something. I've had three different "Bulls" lined up on three different occasions but they've ALL gone ghost on me when it's time to pull the trigger. It's not easy to find Bulls in our neck of the woods so this has been doubly exasperating to say the least.
My main intention with all this is to plant a seed, a seed that tells her she is an attractive, sexy woman that has possibilities beyond her old, boring husband. If that seed grows into something more, all the better.
I've been told that what I'm trying to do is unethical. That to try to hook her up with someone without her knowledge is bad form. Although I know it's nefarious and sneaky, I also feel that it's a way for her to realize her potential and to give her an opportunity that she has no idea how to take.
Any respectful feedback would be appreciated.
 
One of the things I did when getting Jacklyn into it was getting her on a swinger site. Once there it was kind of like a game for us to play together. But even still, getting her to take that leap was hard. I jokingly told her that I had been talking with a potential bull through the site and gave him her number to gauge how she would react. When she didn’t freak out, I actually went ahead with that and would basically screen them and give them her number. That’s what got her talking to other men. And while the first didn’t go past sexting and sending nude pics to each other, the next one did
 
My wife and I play little cuckold games, usually in the comfort of our own bedroom, but there is one scenario where she allows it to be played outside the house. She enjoys going to the local indian casino by herself to play slots. I tease her that it would be the perfect place to find a guy that she could have no-strings sex with and come home to me with a story or two. This has worked out great for us because she's allowed this to get to the point where I get to suggest outfits for her to wear and help her to look sexy before she leaves. I've even ramped it up to where she's been given the green light by me and I've given her magnum condoms, sticking them in her bra and sending her out the door along with the suggestion that if she wanted to go bareback, that would be OK with me too. She really seems to enjoy this flirty, sexy talk.
She always comes home to find me being a horny, nervous wreck and we have a great time reconnecting.
We've gotten a lot of mileage out of this scenario but she's never met a guy there (that she's told me about) and with the lockdown thing, the casino does it's best to keep their customers separate, with little opportunity to mingle. No table games and no cocktail lounge. So I have little trouble believing her.
So I've been a bit naughty about this and have tried to get some Bulls to arrange to meet her there unbeknownst to her. I've been very honest with them and told them that she has cold feet and they would probably get nowhere with her right away, but that I would be happy with anything that transpired . I've let them know that I've given her the green light and that she was free to do anything she wanted to, but that no means no and they must respect HER boundaries. I've let them know that if they could at least get her number, they might get in on the ground floor of something. I've had three different "Bulls" lined up on three different occasions but they've ALL gone ghost on me when it's time to pull the trigger. It's not easy to find Bulls in our neck of the woods so this has been doubly exasperating to say the least.
My main intention with all this is to plant a seed, a seed that tells her she is an attractive, sexy woman that has possibilities beyond her old, boring husband. If that seed grows into something more, all the better.
I've been told that what I'm trying to do is unethical. That to try to hook her up with someone without her knowledge is bad form. Although I know it's nefarious and sneaky, I also feel that it's a way for her to realize her potential and to give her an opportunity that she has no idea how to take.
Any respectful feedback would be appreciated.
I think you have a very practical way of trying to to please your wife. I would do the same. You’re not doing harm to anyone but to help your wife and I think you’re very helpful in that regard and your wife will thank you in future when she find out afterwards. Keep it up
 
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One of the things I did when getting Jacklyn into it was getting her on a swinger site. Once there it was kind of like a game for us to play together. But even still, getting her to take that leap was hard. I jokingly told her that I had been talking with a potential bull through the site and gave him her number to gauge how she would react. When she didn’t freak out, I actually went ahead with that and would basically screen them and give them her number. That’s what got her talking to other men. And while the first didn’t go past sexting and sending nude pics to each other, the next one did
Thank you for your response and your thoughtful tip. I did try putting her on a swinger site once but being the cheap ass that I am, I used the free option and was terrible about the pics. It was so hard to use and was limited on responding to people so I gave that up.
I like the idea of gauging her reaction to little white lies. Some of the best interactions I've had with her have been outside the bedroom and in non-sexual situations. I can now envision a list of things I can tell her just to see her reaction to them.
That said, this area is terrible for finding Bulls or anyone out there that is into any "alternative" scene. Which is why I use the word "exasperating" about Bulls ghosting me.
Once again, Thank You for your thoughtful response.
 
I think you have a very practical way of trying to to please your wife. I would do the same. You’re not doing harm to anyone but to help your wife and I think you’re very helpful in that regard and your wife will thank you in future when she find out afterwards. Keep it up
I certainly hope it works out as you describe. Thank You
 
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I think this may be a good way forward. My wife knows I am dying for her to fuck other guys. I tell her that she is is ok to fuck anyone at any time anywhere. If she went anywhere like this I would definitely get guys to go there and attempt to chat her up and fuck her. It would be an amazing feeling to get a text from her saying it's actually happening. I am still working on it and am toying with the idea of giving her mobile number to someone to text her "accidentally" and get chatting.
 
I think this may be a good way forward. My wife knows I am dying for her to fuck other guys. I tell her that she is is ok to fuck anyone at any time anywhere. If she went anywhere like this I would definitely get guys to go there and attempt to chat her up and fuck her. It would be an amazing feeling to get a text from her saying it's actually happening. I am still working on it and am toying with the idea of giving her mobile number to someone to text her "accidentally" and get chatting.
Maybe like MedwithHotwife said, you could feel her out first by telling her that you've given her number out before you actually do. See how she reacts?
 
I gave it once before to a work colleague and she panicked and didn't reply to him. She did later send him photos of her laying on our bed with her vibrator up her.
 
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He just sent her a text saying hi how are you but we had spoken a lot about him fucking her and I think it just caught her unaware.
Got it. Sometimes guys can get a little too forward and make a woman uncomfortable. Nice to know that it worked to your advantage.
 
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I know, I need to tell her that I need her to do it for me desperately.
Absolutely not! That is not going to calm her anxieties about it. And if you only want her to do it for you, then it is the wrong reasons and you need to keep it a fantasy. Opening up your relationship, needs to be about both of you. Her enjoyment, her self image, her confidence, as well as about you. Telling her you need her to do it for you is not going to squash the fear of “What if he changes his mind afterwards?”
 
Absolutely not! That is not going to calm her anxieties about it. And if you only want her to do it for you, then it is the wrong reasons and you need to keep it a fantasy. Opening up your relationship, needs to be about both of you. Her enjoyment, her self image, her confidence, as well as about you. Telling her you need her to do it for you is not going to squash the fear of “What if he changes his mind afterwards?”
Solid advice Med. It's got to be about her and her needs. If your needs get met along the way that's a bonus. She needs to feel comfortable and secure in her relationship with you.